Here are a selection of interesting and practical resources to help you on your journey of understand you and your values. All the free stuff in this section is based on psychological theories and have been scientifically proven to work. These activities are the perfect first step to self-discovery and starting your own business.
Practice 1: The Fear Factor
Here's a simple and effective took to help you boost your self-compassion when you're feeling low.
1. Think about all the mean, bad and ugly things you say to yourself when you are feeling or low.
2. Write it down on a piece of paper.
3. Look and reflect on them.
Think about where they have come from and find ways to distance yourself from them. Internal language can have a massive influence on you, your perception of the world and your self-worth. Why not play around with those words.... visualise a silly character saying them to you with a silly voice? Maybe give them an accent, increase the pitch or get their voice to go lower than Barry White. Then why not try changing them for better, more powerful words? You'll be surprised the difference it can make after a bad day. Control your thoughts, don't let them control you.
Practice 2: Clarifying values
Values are the things that you believe are important in the way you live and work. Values are your inner-self and come straight from your heart's centre. You don't choose them. They just are. They can change over time as nothing is permanent, so it is good to check in with yourself regularly.
Here is a table to understand where your values fit into your lifestyle. Please take at least 5 minutes to really think about your answers for each section. It takes time to recognise whether something is a true value or whether you simply value it to avoid unpleasant thoughts and feelings. For example, you might feel like you have to give to charity to get rid of thoughts that you are selfish. However, those activities won't bring you satisfaction because your primary motivation is to avoid those unpleasant thoughts. You will only truly be happy if following your heart's desire. If you are unsure what your values are, why not book a session to find out what they are.
Practice 3: The 'Yes' quest
Find it easier to stick to what you know? Feel uncomfortable leaving your comfort zone? Why not try saying 'yes' as much as possible for one day and see what happens. Why not let nature have it's way with you just for 24 hours... you never know what could happen!
Practice 4: Do what you love
In this day and age, we are able to live better than ever before. We are able to make more choices, better medical treatment, better food, better houses and better sanitation. We live in a time where working for one employer for 30 years is outdated and flexible/remote working is becoming more and more recognised. We also have more of a choice on the type of work we can do... too much choice in some cases. This practice invites you to look at your skills and abilities and introduces you to the possibility of making money from it. Start by writing down everything you can do, then do some research and see which skills and abilities fit into which box. You'll be side hustling in no time! Not sure what you're good at? Why not book in a session to get help with this exercise!
Practice 5: Make others look good
Everyone likes to look and feel good. This experiment is all about letting go of our need to come out on top and nurture someone else's light. Try becoming deeply curious about their needs and help them fulfil their goals. By having your primary goal as one that helps people accept their creative spirit, you are developing relationships that are authentic and nurturing. It's a beautiful and wonderful thing to thing to be apart of.
Practice 6: shhhh... listen
A psychological study asked participants to play a card game where the goal was to win the most money. Participants were made aware that it was rigged before they even started playing. There was a choice of two stacks of cards to choose from. One was rigged to provide small gains and few losses, whilst the other provided big wins and big losses. It took 50 cards before participants had a hunch which deck was safer... and it took on average 80 cards before they could explain the different between the two decks. However, it was only after 10 cards that the sweat glands opened slightly whenever they reached for a card from the dangerous deck. It was around the tenth card that participants favoured the safer deck. What does this mean? Our body can sense danger much quicker than the analytical brain. So why not give it a go? For 24-hours, We invite you to turn the volume down on your rational brain and do stuff purely based on how you're feeling, rather than evaluating if it's the right thing to do. Don't fight it, just go with the flow and see what happens.