I watched this TEDtalk on vulnerability again recently, after not seeing it for a while, and felt compelled to share it with you... and give my two cents along with it!
According to Maslow and what is generally agreed in psychology, love and belonging are core drivers in human nature. Our need to feel appreciated, accepted and loved is so powerful that it can affect how we connect with others and our surroundings. This need is a beautiful yet fragile thing. The role of vulnerability is essential on your freedom seeking journey. Without fully connecting with the world authentically, we are left with a feeling of emptiness, loneliness, and imprisonment. Where is the freedom in that?
Not only does not connecting restrict your freedom, hiding your inner self away affects your relationship with yourself, others and the planet. As Brené Brown says the ability to feel connected gives human beings' purpose and direction. It's how we are wired. And It's essentially why we are here. That is why as Freedom Seekers, we create businesses that are inclusive, compassionate and promote passion for what we do.
So why is fully connecting so difficult for us to do?
Insecurity. The biggest burden of being a human being, above all other animals, is that we are incredibly insecure. And although it has been fundamental to our survival throughout evolution, It doesn't make us happy or fulfilled. Authentic connection is what makes us happy. You know, those moments of true connection? That is what everyone is seeking... more moments like those... including your potential clients. And it is because of that, we are always in a conflict between the fear of judgment and rejection and the desire for closeness and acceptance.
So how do you connect more and overcome the barrier of fear?
As Brené Brown says in the talk... The only difference between people who connect and those who don't is self-belief. Those who believe they are worthy of love and belonging are not afraid to be vulnerable and express who they are. They allow all of their emotions to show, even when they are scared. These authentic emotions are what people connect with... and the rawness of these emotions are what can help another grow. There is nothing weak about vulnerability... in fact, vulnerability is much more difficult than hiding away. I see it as a virtue of strength.
Being vulnerable is not easy. Jeez, I still freak out and it is something I am constantly working on. But I know that by facing up to the discomfort and putting myself out there can lead to greater things. If I didn't face up to my insecurities, I would have never been persisted with my dream to help others live their dream. I would have never felt confident enough to submit my photos to exhibitions. I would have never left my hometown in Wales. But the more I push my boundaries, the more I can give to others. And the more self-satisfaction, belonging and love I feel. And ultimately, the freer I feel.
I strongly recommend making it a mission to push your vulnerability boundaries over the festive period... You never know where it may take you.
And yeah... honestly, what's the worst that can happen?
So now I challenge you:
1. What one thing could you do this week where you can practice vulnerability?
2. What secret or story could you tell someone about you?
3. What daily routine could you practice to enhance your self-compassion?
4. Tell yourself that You Are Enough... and really mean it.
Send me an email on firstname.lastname@example.org with your vulnerability to-do list (if you are feeling vulnerable enough, har de har har). I'm always keen to find out what you're up to!
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